On the internet, one can hardly join a new fandom without developing a crush on at least one of the characters. I'm certainly not one to complain about this, nor am I one to criticize liking an anime, book, or movie character. And I'm not even going to go into celebrities. I can't blame ANYONE for liking them, because you can at least know that they're real, even if they'll never care about you. Did I just crush your hopes and dreams there? I hope not. There's always a chance! Not a very big chance, but at least it's a chance. I don't think I'm helping myself here, so I'm just going to move on.
So, as I was saying, it's perfectly alright and reasonable (and, dare I say it, almost normal) on the internet to spend your time obsessing over particular characters who appeal to you. These days it has become acceptable online to the extent that even if you write or roleplay smut for these characters, most people aren't going to judge you. Not everyone will agree with you, but it's not as if you will be punished for doing something awful or anything silly like that. I personally don't read smut, but that's my choice and I'm not going to ruin the glory of it for anyone else.
But, you see, there are ways of ruining fictional crushes. One of them is writing bad fan-fictions about them. And by bad, I don't mean sexual fan-fictions. I'm actually talking about things like My Immortal that ruin the characters and have a horrible plot, among other things. Today, we're going to be discussing (or, at least, I'm going to be discussing) another way that you can ruin a fictional character. And that is being too selfish with him or her. In the fandom world, selfishness extends from the mere, rather harmless self-insertion to the freakish competitive "I want you to die if you like this character. He/She is mine, and you don't deserve to live if you don't think that way."
I know what most of you are probably thinking at the moment: "Kaori, I think that you've finally gone entirely bonkers. No one says that, because that's stupid. People are obsessed and fight, yes, but no one actually does that." If you aren't thinking that, give yourself a nice high-five, also known as clapping. It's my present to you. Not really. If you were thinking that, there's a reason that I'm writing this rant at the moment. A few days ago, I got a disturbing message from an anonymous friend of mine that a girl who I knew (among other people) had been telling people that if they liked the same fictional character as her, then they should die. Needless to say, I was more than a little upset, as I think any of you would be.
I mean, I don't really like telling people this, but when it comes to fictional characters.... they're not real. I know, I know. I love my obsessions and fandoms, but at the end of the day, they will be the same with or without you, but if you tell someone to die and that's what finally pushes them over the edge to commit suicide, you can bet that you'll hold that over your own head for your entire life. As much as we all love the personalities of anime, manga, book, or movie boys, is it really worth dying for? Would you really sacrifice your whole life for them, or as the case may be, someone else's? I know that I hate it when people talk about Lelouch and how much they like him. I know that I personally just want to snap at them and tell them that they don't know everything about him that I know or that they don't like him for the right reasons or even that they just don't understand, but guys... A human life is more precious than any sexy anime guy.
I don't know. I'm not trying to tell everyone here how to live their lives but sometimes I think that we just need to sort out our priorities, because as much as you might love Neville Longbottom or Tobias Eaton or Sasuke Uchiha, you don't have a future with them. Don't destroy someone else's future over something like that. I trust in all of you to make good decisions, and I love you all so much. And if someone tells you to die because you also like Gold from Pokemon Adventures, I expect you to show them that your life is worth more than a manga.